The right questions.

Who is the wisest person you know? What attributes stand out that bring you to this conclusion?

One commonly used phrase within the company where I work is, “Don’t try to be the smartest person in the room.” This is meant to temper our pride. Just because someone is smart and has the answers, it doesn’t make them a good team member. It is meant to focus less on “being right” and focus more on listening to others before coming to a conclusion. This leads to better teamwork which increases innovation and job satisfaction.

Back to the questions about the wisest person: The wisest people I know are not those with the best answers, they are the people with the best questions. Albert Einstein once said:

“If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on the solution, I would spend the first 55 minutes determining the proper question to ask… for once I know the proper question, I could solve the problem in less than five minutes.”

Note the cover image quoting Luke 2:52 doesn’t say “Jesus became so smart…”, it says he grew in wisdom. This is the same chapter where Jesus was found in the Temple listening to the teachers and asking questions (ref Luke 2:46).

Transformed through prayer.

My prayer life recently has included the following questions and sentiment regarding a job transfer that will involve a move that my wife and I are struggling with:

  1. God, why are you allowing this to happen? “You know what I want.”
  2. God, what should we do? Where should we go?

Over time God has revealed that while these questions are fair to ask (as we can ask him anything), my questions were somewhat selfish. He is leading me toward better questions and statements that focus on Him and His will such as:

  • God, where do you want me to go?
  • God, how can I serve you where you are leading me?
  • God, your will, not mine.
  • God, thank you for this day, for all you have done, are doing, and will do in my life.

The change in questions and prayers has brought me from a posture of worry to a place of peace and hope. The right questions can lead us closer to understanding our purpose and God’s purpose, and the most important question is related to where we will spend eternity:

What do you believe to be true about Jesus?

But these are written so that you may continue to believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing in him you will have life by the power of his name. (John 20:31)

Wisdom isn’t just about having the right answers—it’s about asking the right questions. When we shift our focus from seeking control to seeking God’s will, we open ourselves to His guidance, peace, and purpose.

What questions are you asking? Are they leading you closer to trust, surrender, and your purpose?

Which Voice?

The sound of footsteps upstairs in our home – I know whose they are. One stomps, the other walks more softly, and then slides with his socks on the wood floor.

The sound of footsteps coming down the stairs – I recognize these too. One goes slowly and methodically, and one comes down like lightning and thunder, bringing fear into my heart every time.

The sound of their voices – now men, their tones are distinct. However, the other day on the phone, one sounded so much like the other I had to pause and listen more closely.

No matter where we’ve lived, their footsteps and voices have given them away for over 17 years. Knowing their sounds brings joy to my heart. I know my boys and I love them dearly.

Similarly, with my wife whom I’ve known for more than 25 years, I can pick out her voice in a large crowd. Not that she is loud, I just know her voice, her pitch, and her laugh. I can almost hear her voice when she writes messages because she writes just like she talks, therefore an email imposter would be easy to identify. A relationship with her is truly a gift and I love her dearly as well.

How about the voices and sounds in your life?

There’s another voice in my life that I have known for many years. In some seasons the voice has seemed far and at other times it has been crystal clear. This voice is the whisper of the Holy Spirit and the more time I spend with God, the more I know his voice. While not specifically audible, it is an overwhelming sense of instruction, warning, encouragement, love, truth, patience, peace, wisdom, and joy. It is one thing to know his voice, it is another to listen, trust, and obey.

In yesterday’s post on John Chapter 9, Freddy shared the story about the blind man who was healed by Jesus by putting mud on his eyes. The man told the Pharisees what happened and then they asked him again as they were still in disbelief.

He answered them, “I have told you already, and you would not listen. Why do you want to hear it again? Do you also want to become his disciples?” (John 9:27)

They wanted a sign, they got a sign, yet they didn’t believe. The blind man sees but the Phari”sees” didn’t see. How ironic!

In today’s reading (John 10) we know that the Pharisees were well aware of some of the miracles of Jesus. Some were even first-hand witnesses to his miracles.

 Jesus answered them, “I have shown you many good works from the Father; for which of them are you going to stone me?” (John 10:32)

Even seeing and hearing of his miracles the people in the Temple questioned Jesus. They wanted him to tell them if he was the Messiah, however he had already told them.

24 The people surrounded him and asked, “How long are you going to keep us in suspense? If you are the Messiah, tell us plainly.”

25 Jesus replied, “I have already told you, and you don’t believe me. The proof is the work I do in my Father’s name. (John 10:24-25)

Just like the story of the blind man in Chapter 9, why did they ask him again? Why didn’t they believe? They “heard” yet they didn’t truly listen, they didn’t accept him.

but you do not believe because you are not among my sheep. My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me. (John 10:26-27)

Alas, it is also the same for us when the signs are all around us yet we choose not to listen, not to obey, not to trust, not to believe, not to draw nearer by spending time with our Lord Jesus. Notice the very important “and” from Jesus in verse 27: “and they follow me“. We must not just listen and hear, we must choose to follow.

The world is full of voices trying to tell us its version of what is best; what to buy, where to spend our time, what love is, and what truth is. Only one voice leads to life, and that’s the voice of the Good Shepherd, Jesus. Will you recognize and choose His voice, His love, His truth, and ultimately His eternal promise today?

Imperfect Human, Perfect God

In a conversation with colleagues this week I made a controversial statement. One that you as a reader may be offended by but please bear with me as it was meant to ultimately bring glory to God and deeper conversation. I said (quoting a friend), “The worst thing about Christianity is Christians”.

Years ago when my friend said this, as a Christian, I was initially offended. As he went on I realized the logic: Humans are flawed, God is not. We mess it up, he cleans us up. We are prone to be unloving, he loves unconditionally. We get in the way, He is the way.

Christianity in its purest form is perfect.

He is a loving God who made the greatest sacrifice, calling us to know him, to do His will to serve and love others. He calls us to His son Jesus, Immanuel (meaning, “God with us”). He was God in the flesh, he lived a perfect life, he died, he defeated death, and we can have a deep and meaningful relationship with him. He is with us always, every moment.

“Look! The virgin will conceive a child!
    She will give birth to a son,
and they will call him Immanuel,
    which means ‘God is with us.’” (Matthew 1:23)

Christianity includes the forgiveness of sins and the promise of eternity with God. With this, we are called to share God’s love and hope with others so that they too can be saved. Our instruction manual is flawless, holy, and wise and contains wisdom regarding all of life’s hardships, opportunities, and experiences. Knowing and serving God brings peace beyond all understanding.

“Be still, and know that I am God!
    I will be honored by every nation.
    I will be honored throughout the world.” (Psalm 46:10)

Even this morning after waking up three hours before my alarm I have had focus time with God in prayer and scripture reading, being still in the presence of my maker. The problems of this world are still present but the peace in my heart right now is indescribable.

The beauty of Christianity isn’t found in our perfection but in God’s. He redeems and works through our flaws, offering love, grace, and peace beyond understanding.

May this truth inspire us to reflect His love and point others to Him—not for our glory, but for His. He is Immanuel, God with us. Be still in His presence, and trust His work in the brokenness.

Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think. (Ephesians 3:20)

Changing the Conversation

How are your interpersonal relationships? Are they filled with joy and peace, marked by challenging conflicts and bitterness, or perhaps somewhere in between? Relationships can be both rewarding and demanding, especially when conflicts arise. When facing conflict with another human, we have a few options:

  1. Stand firm. Continue the conflict and stick to our point of view.
  2. Let it go. Forgive and forget.
  3. Change the subject completely. This approach reflects the “flight” response in the classic “fight or flight” scenario.
  4. Change the conversation. Without abandoning the subject, we shift to a different angle or perspective.

The Cost of Standing Firm

Continuing the conflict and maintaining our point of view puts us at risk of being prideful with the focus on winning – which equates to someone losing, and in this, everyone loses. Do you want to win (be right) or do you want to be loving?

The Beauty of Letting Go

Letting something go can be a beautiful gesture of forgiveness as long as we have truly committed our hearts to saying “it’s not worth it” so that the same conflict doesn’t rear its ugly head over and over.

The Power of Changing the Subject

Changing the subject completely is quite useful when things get too hot to handle. It is like the “eject” button from a fighter jet about to explode. We can’t always just change the subject, and avoidance is not always the best way either, so this must be used with caution.

The Art of Changing the Conversation

Changing the conversation is often the most challenging because it requires tactfulness, humility, and patience. This method is a great step toward a win-win because it helps to bring both parties to the table with an attempt to bring peaceful resolution without belaboring or ignoring the issue.

Lessons From The Book of Job

In Job Chapter 24, Job continues his long dissertation and asks why the wicked aren’t punished. He makes good points and as we read this we can understand his frustration and sorrow.

Next comes Job Chapter 25 where Bildad responds. Did Bildad roll up his sleeves and let Job know where he had misspoke? Did he call him a fool, escalate, or dissect his many points? No. Bildad chooses a different approach – he changes the conversation. He doesn’t directly answer Job’s questions nor does he try to argue or reason with Job. He doesn’t change the subject. He keeps his response simple and gives glory to God.

“God is powerful and dreadful.
    He enforces peace in the heavens.
Who is able to count his heavenly army?
    Doesn’t his light shine on all the earth?
How can a mortal be innocent before God?
    Can anyone born of a woman be pure?
God is more glorious than the moon;
    he shines brighter than the stars.
In comparison, people are maggots;
    we mortals are mere worms.” (Job 25:2-6 NLT)

Transforming Our Relationships

When conflicts arise, consider how we can respond thoughtfully. Whether it is the freedom of letting go, diffusing tension with changing the subject, or changing the conversation. Whatever we do we must do it lovingly with Jesus as our example and savior, for God’s glory. Our responses say a lot about who we are and where we are in our relationship with our Heavenly Father.

Today’s reading: Job 24-27; Rev 17

Love is a verb.

This summer, my father-in-law, Charles “Chuck” Keever, and I discussed faith. Although this can be a touchy subject with family members, Chuck has known me for nearly 25 years. He’s heard me preach God’s word and pray over many meals, and most importantly, he has a close view of how I live. In turn, I have insights into how he lives and I knew it to be true when he said “I try to do what The Good Book says”.

Chuck is a giver. He loves to give to his family and friends as well as bless those who are less fortunate. He’s a gifted dentist (now retired) and one of my favorite chefs. The beauty of the combination of dentist-chef is that he utilizes science and art to curate amazing foods such as briskets, breads, dips, and meats. If it once moved slowly, he’ll grill it or smoke it and it will always be good – and you’ll always have enough, even if you’re a random guest in his home.

In short, Chuck shows his love for others by giving to them.

What then does the “Good Book” (The Bible) say to Chuck and the rest of us?

Today’s assigned reading includes 1 John 4. Within this chapter, there is a section titled “God Is Love” (verses 7-21) where we find the word love twenty-seven times (twenty-nine if you count “beloved”). Here are some of the things these verses teach us about love:

  1. To love one another, that love is from God, and that those who love have been born of God and they know God. (v7)
  2. That if we do not love, we do not know God. (v8)
  3. That God is love. (v8)
  4. That God showed his love for us by sending his only Son into the world to give us life. (v9)
  5. God loved us first (even if we don’t love him, he still loves us). (v10)
  6. Since God loves us, we should love each other. (v11)
  7. As we love others, God in turn lives in us, and his love is expressed in us. (v12)
  8. God’s perfect love eliminates fear. Fear relates to punishment yet we need not fear when we are abiding in God’s perfect love through Jesus Christ. (v17-18)
  9. If we say we love God, we must love others (if we hate others, we then show we do not love God). (v20-21)

These verses help us understand why we exist on this planet. To know God and have a relationship with Him, to experience His love through Jesus, to love Him back, and to share His love with others, so that we can spend eternity with Him.

Dear readers, upon the publishing of today’s post, Chuck will be undergoing major surgery so this is a call to prayer in this serious situation. Will you please pray with me?

Father God, thank you for loving us, for showing your love through your servant Charles as we lift him up to you in this moment. Guide the hands of the medical staff, and grant them wisdom and courage. Strengthen Chuck’s body so that it can undergo the necessary procedures. Please comfort and give peace to his family and friends as they surround Chuck from near and far. We ask for miraculous results and full healing, beyond our own understanding, for your glory. We pray these things in the name of Jesus. Amen.

Thriving Under Good Leadership: Lessons from the Vine

Have you recently experienced poor customer service where the employee didn’t know how to perform their job successfully? Or maybe where you work, are there employees who “just don’t get it”? This is referring more toward lack of skill as opposed to lack of will.

Early in my career, I was a lot more judgmental about poor-performing employees, such as “They are no good, so they should be fired.” My mindset has since shifted to seek the deeper cause of poor performance, and usually, the root cause is more about bad leadership. People tend to thrive under good leadership and wither away under bad leadership. More deeply, we tend to become more like the leaders we follow.

Jesus said it best:

Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. (John 15:4)

This is about following and submitting to his leadership. His commands. His will. It is about true life, not a moment here and there, not just Sunday mornings where we are all so spiritual, but every waking moment, drawing nearer to him.

I love this thought by John Mark Comer from “The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry”, referring to abiding in Jesus:

It’s a way to organize all of your life around the practice of the presence of God, to work and rest and play and eat and drink and hang out with your friends and run errands and catch up on the news, all about of a place of deep, loving enjoyment of the Father’s company.

What will we choose today and for the rest of our days? Will it be to follow our own instincts, the ways of the world, or the latest popular thought around success and happiness? Or will it be to live a fruitful and transformative life marked by obedience to Jesus and a love for others?

10 If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. 11 These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full. (John 15:10-11)

Slowing Down to Be Present with God and Others

Do you find yourself constantly in motion, always on the go, and rarely stopping to take a breath? Do you experience restlessness? When people ask how you’re doing, is your automatic response something like “good, just really busy”? If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. I catch myself saying it too, and I hear it from people of all walks of life—retirees, students, stay-at-home parents, and professionals alike.

I constantly find myself in a hurry, trying to accomplish one thing after another so I can accomplish more. This includes activities related to my employment, in the home, where I serve, and even when I’m supposed to be rejuvenating.

This summer while on vacation to visit family and friends my heart was convicted. It was as though I was trying to get through every conversation and gathering as quickly as possible. This left me feeling exhausted and guilty as I was supposed to experience peace and joy with these wonderful people, yet I felt the opposite. My mind wandered and I was frequently mentally “somewhere else”.

What convicted me wasn’t a specific friend or family member, it was through self-reflection, alone time, and prayer. One phrase kept coming to mind: Be present.

My selfishness is what got in the way. I was the problem, not anyone else. Our most limited resource is our time, and more important than time is our attention. While I “spent time” with these people, my attention was elsewhere.

Worse than inattention to family and friends is inattention to God and his will for my life. The more focused I am on myself, the less focused I am on God. This goes for prayer time, acknowledging the beauty of His creation, and giving thanks for the many blessings he has given.

Since that moment of conviction, I’ve started making small but meaningful changes. By intentionally focusing on the present (and on others), prayer, and time with God, I’ve found more joy in my interactions.

Today’s reading in 1 Peter 3 gives some simple instructions for good living which relates to my story:

  • Love each other (v. 8). It is loving to give our attention to others.
  • Be tenderhearted (v. 8). We can only have tender hearts when we see others for who they are (God’s creation) and we let go of selfish desires.
  • Keep a humble attitude (v. 8). Again, putting others first, dying to self.
  • Bless those who hurt us (and we will be blessed by God) (v. 9). The world says to take revenge but how is that working out for the world?
  • Tell the truth and speak with kindness (v. 10). This talks about being able to enjoy life. While scripture doesn’t guarantee a “happy life”, we can still live life abundantly in Christ. Too often we chase things we don’t need to find happiness. This scripture keeps it simple.
  • Do good, maintain peace (v. 11). This verse contains action words. Good living doesn’t come from just sitting on the couch watching television. Take action!

All of those verses lead me to close with 1 Peter 3:15.

Instead, you must worship Christ as Lord of your life. And if someone asks about your hope as a believer, always be ready to explain it.

As you reflect on these scriptures, I invite you to carve out some quiet time today or tomorrow to pray over these questions:

  1. What do my time and attention say about me? Do these choices indicate Christ as Lord of my life?
  2. If someone asks about my hope as a believer, am I ready to explain it? What will I say?

Today’s reading: 2 Kings 24-25; 2 Chronicles 36; Psalm 126; 1 Peter 3

Friendship and Faith: Lessons from Paul

What are the characteristics of the people you call best friends?

Here are some of the attributes that I admire the most. People who are:

  • Loyal. Not only to me as a friend, but they are loyal in whatever they do, as workers, servants, and leaders.
  • Honest. The bold, direct truth-tellers, who clearly say what needs to be said, when it needs to be said. Confrontation with these individuals is healthy.
  • Humble. Their mission in life is not about them, it is about a greater purpose. They’re willing to take bumps and bruises as they stand up for what they believe.
  • Self-aware. They know what they are capable of and better, they know their weaknesses and are unashamed to admit them.
  • Sacrificial givers, expecting nothing in return. They add to the relationship.
  • Escape artists. They can get out undetected from a sticky situation at a moment’s notice.

Today’s reading: Jeremiah 8-10; 2 Cor 11

The characteristics listed above are how I’d refer to the Apostle Paul in 2 Corinthians 11. I was just joking about the escape artist thing but how thrilling would it be to escape an enemy via a basket through a window in a city wall?

“When I was in Damascus, the governor under King Aretas kept guards at the city gates to catch me. I had to be lowered in a basket through a window in the city wall to escape from him.” 2 Corinthians‬ ‭11‬:‭32‬-‭33‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Paul was loyal to his friends and those whom he served, he told the truth no matter the consequences and humbled himself to the point of many beatings and severe physical pain. He wasn’t out to win hearts for him but for Jesus. Paul knew his strengths and weaknesses and was bold enough to be vulnerable in admitting his inadequacies. He gave and gave, ultimately to the point of death, much like our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Paul’s example is a powerful reminder that true friendship, leadership, and discipleship are not about self-promotion or personal gain. They are about serving others with a pure heart, living with integrity, and standing firm in faith, even when it leads us into challenging or painful situations. Like Paul, we are called to be loyal, honest, humble, self-aware, and sacrificial in our relationships, grounded in the mission of Jesus Christ.

Reflecting on Paul’s life, I also find myself confronted with my imperfections—areas where I’ve allowed worry, fear, and doubt to cloud the peace and joy that come from trusting fully in God. However, through repentance and realignment, I feel His joy beginning to restore me.

What about you? Are there areas in your life where doubt or fear has clouded your vision? What steps can you take to trust more fully in God’s plan and purpose in your life? Reflect on the traits that define your closest and uplifting relationships and how you can become more like the friend, servant, and follower of Christ that Paul exemplified.

Take time over the coming days to let go of anything that may be holding you back, and embrace the freedom that comes from walking in faith in Christ alone.

Be Like Mike?

In the 1990s there was an advertising series for Gatorade with the theme “Be Like Mike”. This “Mike” is the world-famous Michael Jordan, typically referred to as the greatest basketball player of all time. Michael Jordan was and is a global cultural icon.

When I’ve been to faraway lands and people ask me where I am from in the USA, instead of saying Michigan I say “near Chicago”. And when they stare blankly as if they do not know where Chicago is, I say “Chicago Bulls” and then they say “oh, Michael Jordan!”. This actually happens quite often!

The intent of “Be Like Mike” was to convince people that if they drank Gatorade, they would be like Michael Jordan. In case you weren’t aware, drinking Gatorade does not by any means make you or anyone else even remotely similar to Michael Jordan.

Just as Michael Jordan is unique, so are you. You are loved by God more than you may know. And when we try to be something we are not, we become just a cheap imitation. Our value to God does not change based on how good (or bad) we are, the results we achieve, or even if we choose not to follow him – he loves us nonetheless.

The concept of “cheap imitation” can also be compared to our objects of worship. Surely none of us bow down and worship our phones, calendars, homes, cars, or children however these things can become idols if we are not careful. Our worship is only as valuable as what or whom we worship.

They rejected his decrees and the covenant he had made with their ancestors, and they despised all his warnings. They worshiped worthless idols, so they became worthless themselves. They followed the example of the nations around them, disobeying the Lord’s command not to imitate them. (2 Kings 17:15 NLT)

Being like Mike might have sold sports drinks, but in reality, being like anyone else just sells us short. God’s love for you isn’t based on performance or perfection—it’s based on who you are, His beloved child. Don’t settle for imitations. Live in the truth that your worth comes from a God who loves you deeply and desires our worship, not of the world’s idols, but of Christ alone.

This Jesus is the stone that was rejected by you, the builders, which has become the cornerstone. And there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.” (Acts 4:11-12)

Today’s reading: 2 Chronicles 28; 2 Kings 17; Psalm 66; 1 Corinthians 7

Always be ready.

Today like most days nearly everything was scheduled. From the time to get up, leave for the gym, return from the gym, get ready, join a call, depart for the airport, and then the flight departure. All of these times were known up front, and I was slightly off schedule for most. The most important and inflexible time was of course the flight. Once the gates are closed, there is absolutely no entry.

I’ve known about this flight for weeks so technically I’ve been able to prepare and be ready for more than enough time. Which luggage to bring, clothes, toiletries, shoes, and anything else? There was plenty of time to make dining reservations at our destination but I waited until the last minute.

The bottom line is, there was a schedule, and I knew the precise planned time for each. It was up to me to be ready or not.

Today’s reading includes the Parable of the Ten Bridesmaids. In this parable, the bridesmaids were to await the bridegroom. The bridegroom ended up being late and while waiting, five of the bridesmaids had lamps that ran out of oil. The ill-prepared bridesmaids missed the bridegroom as they went to buy oil. Those who were ready and waiting were allowed to enter the feast, and then the door was locked. Upon the return of the other bridesmaids, they realized they missed out due to their lack of preparation.

11 Later, when the other five bridesmaids returned, they stood outside, calling, ‘Lord! Lord! Open the door for us!’ 12 “But he called back, ‘Believe me, I don’t know you!’ (Matthew 25:11-12)

Just like a flight when the gates are closed, there is no reopening, so we must always be ready for the return of Christ. Given our busy lives and schedules, how much do we really anticipate his return? Too often I am guilty of going through the motions, onto the next calendar event when my true hope, longing and anticipation should be for the return of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

  • What if today was the day? Are you ready?
  • What will you do to prepare?
  • Where is your heart and mental focus? Earthly calendars or Heavenly appointments?
  • Are you praying for others to be ready?